Finally! 5 ways to overcome LOW SELF ESTEEM is here.

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Right from the term, Low self-esteem is a state of bringing oneself to a lower state than it's necessary. So many people have been stuck in this position for so long, and it is even worse when the person is not aware that this is a problem to be addressed. Low self-esteem might be easily mistaken for humility or shyness, but it's something more than that.  

Below are some factors to look out for in someone with low-self esteem:

1. Inability to express your opinion in public

2. Avoiding people's faces during a conversation

3  You find it difficult to say NO to others' request

4. You say negative things to yourself

5. You blame yourself for everything that goes wrong, even when it's obvious that you are not at fault.

Taking some steps to get free from low self-esteem might seem challenging but the reward is worth fighting for. Some of these are: you will be able to mark your boundaries with others, and you don't permit anyone to mess up with you; you also develop the ability to communicate your brilliant ideas with others; also you end up speaking positive words to yourself which will have a resonance effect on other aspects of your life.

To put an end to low self-esteem; there are some simple measures to take which include:

1. Find the cause of the low self-esteem: you can simply make a reflection and see where it all got started. This can be due to a lack of parental care and support in childhood(Some parents do say some diminishing words that make a child question his self-worth) or the current lack of some basic amenities or not being able to meet up with the standard you have set for yourself. When you have discovered the cause, finding a solution won't be much difficult. For instance, if the cause is due to a lack of basic amenities, the best thing is to render a service to people, get paid, and meet those needs.


2. Learn how to say NO: you can practice this a couple of times daily. What you need to do is to reject a few requests which you normally will give a "Yes". For instance, if a friend asked you to follow her to take lunch, just say "I'm sorry, I'm not yet ready for now". You may think your friends will find it offensive, but that is not always the case, some will respect you for it.


3. Look people straight in the eye: you can start this first with your colleagues or friends then try it out with other people. Try to look (not stare, that will make you look rude)at the face of your friends during any discussion and later focus on something else. As easy as this task may seem it is very effective in building high confidence. 



4. Find a community of people that are committed to your growth:  there are many communities out there that can foster your growth. This can be a public speaking society or holding political posts. All these positions will enable you to express yourselves without anyone looking down on you whenever you make some flaws. And it's also good if you stay away from the people that bring you down or don't value you.


5. Reach out to a Therapist: if after taking all the measures above, you discovered you are not getting better, it will be better to seek medical help.


I look forward to writing to you soon.


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